You Don’t Chase Closure—You Create It
A blog for the woman done begging for clarity from people committed to confusion.
Mood while reading : “No Reply” By Mahalia or “Get Money” By Biggie Smalls
You don’t need one more conversation. You don’t need a well packaged explanation. And you damn sure don’t need a text back to move on.
Closure doesn’t come from them. It comes from you.
From the moment you say: “I saw what I needed to see.” “I felt what I needed to feel.” “I deserve better and I’m not waiting to be convinced of that anymore.”
Let’s teach for a second… because the mind will beg for loops.
When we don’t get closure, the brain stays in replay mode. It’s searching for resolution, for “why,” for justice. But here’s the truth: Some people will never give you closure because accountability threatens the story they tell themselves.
And it’s not your job to chase a version of the story where they finally get it. It’s your job to close the chapter and free your nervous system.
Let me be real—reflection time.
I spent too long rereading messages, overanalyzing moments, and hoping silence would break into clarity. But that clarity never came. And the deeper truth? I already knew. I just didn’t want to accept it.
So I created my own closure:
- By blocking the number I kept checking.
- By deleting the thread I was addicted to.
- By choosing peace over potential, self-respect over fantasy.
That’s the real healing. Not when they apologize. But when you stop needing them to.
Journal Prompt: Where am I still waiting for someone to make me feel okay about walking away?
You don’t need a permission slip to move on. You don’t need mutual understanding to let go. And you don’t need a damn “I’m sorry” to reclaim your worth.
Closure is a decision. Not a discussion.
And the moment you give it to yourself? You stop orbiting people who were never grounded in truth.
Let this be the moment you say: “I’m done explaining myself to people committed to misunderstanding me.” “I’m done hoping they change.” “I’m done sitting in the wreckage waiting for someone to come clean it up.”
You get to move on. And that’s the closure.
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