You’re Not Crazy — You’re Just Asking for Accountability
A blog for the woman who’s done being gaslit and ready to reclaim her standards.
You’re not crazy for wanting communication. You’re not “doing too much” for asking someone to follow through. You’re not dramatic for noticing the energy shift, the delayed replies, the breadcrumbing.
You’re just asking for basic accountability in a culture that normalizes ghosting over growing the f*ck up.
And the truth is when you’ve done the healing work, you start seeing things faster. You notice misalignment sooner. You stop entertaining confusion because peace feels too damn good.
Let’s talk about it what accountability really looks like:
It’s not perfection. It’s presence. It’s showing up with honesty, even when it’s uncomfortable. It’s not avoiding the conversation it’s having the maturity to finish what you started.
So when someone disappears without a word… when they play hot and cold… when their actions don’t match their words… it’s not you. It’s not your energy being “too much.” It’s them lacking the emotional capacity to meet you where you are. Oof that part.
Let that be their reflection not your regression.
Now let me be real—reflection time.
There were moments I almost dimmed myself to keep someone comfortable. Moments I questioned my intuition because someone said I was “overreacting.” Moments I let the silence convince me that I was asking for too much.
But deep down, I knew better. I knew I wasn’t asking for luxury I was asking for clarity. And clarity is a love language.
You don’t have to shrink to be seen. You don’t have to explain what emotional immaturity refuses to hold. You just have to trust what you feel and choose peace over potential.
Journal Prompt:
Where have I been gaslighting myself just to keep someone else comfortable? What would accountability look like in this connection?
You’re not crazy. You’re intuitive. You’re clear. You’re evolving.
And anyone meant to meet you there? Won’t make you question what you already know.
Need help staying rooted in truth?
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